N always remember God made everything in two and so he will give you the right man! If you see him often and youre trying to understand the way that he feels about you then it would be helpful to compare the way that he interacts with you with the way that he interacts with others. Trust your gut. How could anyone with respect for themselves or their body have a child with a man that is not married to them or that they were not in a very long relationship with? He's not a very social person through text so we really don't talk as often as I would like. Shes married my son seems to love the guy. But most of the time we are healthy. I am a sucker , I won't disagree with you . Me and my baby mama have been separated for close to 1 yr n half our son is 2. I feel stuck but you my dear are not! Many other cultures are very accommodating of male infidelity. She has no power and has been staying with me and the kids for the last couple of weeks. The SSL certificate presented by the server did not pass validation. Boyfriend said another woman's name. I really loved him and thought what we had was special. No. However, if he begins to act in strange ways in any situation that involves his baby mama, you might need to pay attention to any red flag his actions portray. I couldn't think of anything worse than getting back with my ex, even the thought of sex with them again repulses me, but I love my kids and deeply care about their other parent who gave me my children.. No other feelings left there. Ask yourself these questions first: 6. What say you? Question similar to this, my partner and I have been together for over a year, I fit the role of step father for her daughter (clothe, food, bills, school runs, fun stuff etc.). My daughter father left about a year and a half ago. At first he asked me to come get him and then he changed his mind and apologized for getting me in the middle of it. Is it meet ups? Your boyfriend and the mother of his child are still together. If not dump him now. For you to be co.peting says more about you than to be worrying about him. He picked me. But now im done taking it. I'm a business man and I currently live abroad, but I'm looking for a woman who's as dedicated as you. I know this is an older thread but hopefully you can reply. He grew up a little bit and I grew some self-respect because I know that I deserve to be treated with nothing less. A time log then bring it up to him only once if he doesn't correct the situation with the BM then there's your point he wants both of them or there's a possible affair going on between the two of them and if he does not my advice is move forward its not just about the baggage he will bring its the drama he will keep take care and good luck. When he throws a new one at me, I tell him "She's not the one. Boyfriend talks about his baby mama EVERY DAY. thanks for replying with that comment because i am in a situation where my current bf has a baby mother who they talk everyday and i didnt know if it was right to stop them because i know she asks about the son. If it is, you really need to either find a way to let it go, or you need to move on to a guy without a child. If something happened to him I would be sad for MY DAUGHTER. You made the right choice, even if he was being honest and said he didnt have a drop of love left for her, he said he did because of so and so. I have been playing both roles as mother and father for the past 16 years taking the responsibility financially, physically, and emotionally. You should never settle for being second choice. But be very aware when every move the baby mama makes requires input from your man. Your are at some point going to have to accept that hes just not the one. If they are not together as a couple anymore then why hide you? Or maybe hes been engaging in inappropriate behavior with the mother of his child on the low and thats why hes hesitant to let her know shes doing the absolute most. We literally were the same person!! I changed the locks on our apartment and took him to child support for our then, 4 month old daughter. Sometimes it's hard for men and because they were in love, some fall in love and have children some people were never in love or had a form of puppy love, but if a deep emotional bond was created this can harbor bitter feelings and sadness for the dumped party either guy or girl. I have a kid but my kid is raised very well and very well behaved. For a while when I got back he was all about me and didn't pay her much mind he didn't get confirmation it was his son until the boy was like 5/6 and that's when he started being nice and there for her she would tell him all her problems he did the same they ended up ****in on the low i actually was told there dude and I didn't belt it but my dumb ass realized what it was when his car was outside a motel. I feel bad for you..my boyfriend was doing this..he would go shopping with them his ex and 7 yr old..go to all the school functions and never invite me..we were together 4 years and im sure he did it more than i knew..on the 5th year he was with her more ..after 7mos of the constant lies and telling me i was crazy for thinking he was messing around..the ex calls me..she tells me they have been out together and "tried having sex" but never did..so he wanted to be w me in the end.n i felt like ha **** he chose me! Fact that he doesn't want you to text, call or see him often is more proof that he's still with her. I told her no , told I didn't know about any new baby either . I still went out of my way to help him see his son every once in a while but we lost contact for five years. Our break-up was heated and intense. My baby daddy cheated on me we been together three years he now has another baby by another female when every she leave him with nothing an fly back to Germany he always run back to me what should I do. Two months ago, he called finally saying he wanted me to meet someone. 3. Talk to him about this and ask him to do something about it. That's life things happen people make mistakes. Take it from a man. Also, does she always complain about her ex? Hell I even take care of the 2 kids she had wit my alleged friend! If he doesnt get why this needs to happen, it could be a sign something deeper is going on that hes trying to hide. Student athlete. I was once in a relationship with someone who has two kids. Based on what you have said, it appears that you may be an unknowing other woman. 2. Married men especially from Africa and South America with girlfriends here. I totally agree with you! I would have to say that his baby mama and kid(s) is a package deal to a certain extent because you would have to put up with her for as long as you are with him. Sometimes baby mamas have tricks up their sleeves. It's different. She is married now and I can say for a fact I'm still madly in love with her. Hi, I must say it is a difficult situation. Funny thing is, if whoever he's dealing with doesn't meet me, they're not shit. It really depends on the person. We wanted to make sure that his kids were secure and settled before we took the big step. What's up with these thots on here??? I've been loyal to my husband! She says she will always love me no matter what but she never admits anything even when I came to get my son and a random guy is in her house with his shirt off walking out the bedroom. "If she constantly asks intrusive questions, your partner needs to be able to reply: 'That is not up for discussion.'". I'll remove myself because he already blames me he can't be with anyone because I'll always try with him . Do I act crazy? Last month i had a wake up call and had to just end it after his child's 3rd bday. She's been beating him for something like 8 years now. I'm no longer in love with him and feel like an additional person when I'm with him and his childplus his baby's mother would call in occasionally (which, really was to check in on her son) but i just didn't like it. If he reacts to seeing you by uncrossing his arms, sitting upright, adjusting his hair or clothing, raising his eyebrows and smiling, his pupils dilate, he makes space for you and he watches you as you enter the room then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you. "One is just for presentation, the other is just for fun." Isn't it kind of selfish to date someone when you feel this way? And she has a very tight relationship with his family. I tell them how i am still in love with my bm and if she ever decides to take me back. And let me tell you, before my time expired at the job he used to stalk me daily. Bf's baby mama wants him back and she's trying all the means to get him back. If this is the case, then its a good thing! These girls he's messing with hate the fact that I'm around him , they don't even want to think about me and him even going out for our daughter . Their loyalties are with him and his child, not OP or his wife, necessarily. I realized that any anger a guy shows towards his child's mother is lost love a feeling of betrayal because he once loved her, it's best to foster love and respect for each other though regardless. I'm still in love with my kids mom. Of course, you dont have to have children with him just because hes calling you his baby mama, but it is a sign that hes serious about you. I wasn't a great boyfriend for 6 yrs and then we had a child. I created and currently manage Body Language Central, one of the premier sources for body language-related knowledge. Find a great single dude, forget about this dude, even if the sex was out of this world, use logic when picking your men, the emotional shit is what has you in pain, the logic told you to leave. He's playing her and was trying to play me again.. MadameNoire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives African-American women the latest in fashion trends, The other day he didnt intorduce me as his gf to some people because he was scared what they would think about his relationship failing with her. The day after that, he had her bringing him to my subdivision. And I loved him. Y'all both getting played and you getting played worse than his new girl. The less love he has. At one point, I thought things would get better between the three of us (my husband, his baby mama and I). And is it normal to have a family day if technically we aren't a family? N the messed up part is I prlly won't ever try n get into another relationship cause my trust is soo messed up!! If that is the case, men will use other cuter terms rather than sticking with the clichd ones." "It is my habit to call girls babe. He has to put his foot down and tell bm not to call at all hours of the night. I love my daughter with all my heart. "You don't want to be either, you are not "just" something, you are many great things and you win when you find someone who sees all of that.". I have not a drop of ANY type of feelings for him! He's lying about this.. If that was so you wouldn't be here asking for advise. I said dont forget you blocked me of all access to you. Many said no because the mancomes as a packaged deal with childandpossible drama with the childs mother. This has been going on for over a year and I feel bad for the girl who has no idea or maybe suspecta like you and I know how that feels as he was lying to me when he was cheating on me with her. Smh worst feeling in the world is to love somebody that you can NEVER have!! I always give him the benefit of the doubt because i want to trust him but is he really loyal to me? Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. I found out they were actually living together and when I met her she acts like they're still together. Why is he spending all of his free time with his ex and ignoring you? Body Language Central IS A PARTICIPANT IN THE AMAZON SERVICES LLC ASSOCIATES PROGRAM. We had ALOT of attraction and chemistry, but absolutely no compatability. He hasn't been working and has no car and all this stuff and is on my phone plan from living with me, and I let him keep it because it is important that I can communicate for our child. The reality is you can do better. My bf has told me several times how he wish he never had children with her because she makes his life hard. So that broke the camels back. 32:47. Reach out to the bm and get to know her for yourself. But maybe that might change since he wants to be civil he wants to be happy . If he is your friend and he calls you mama then it would be a sign that he wants to be more than just friends with you. If she's an ex really, why would he care how she reacts? Does the child know you? Each of the different reasons why a guy might call a woman mama will likely come with a number of clues in his body language. How do you deal with picking schools and the bigger decisions when it comes to your child? Im in a similar situation right now, I m still in love but feel like if I can't get past this, the love on one end will come to an end. My boyfriend has now told me that I cant text him or call him after 7(after work) because he doesn't want the baby mama to know that he has a girlfriend because he says she could take the child and move somewhere else with out telling him. I mean it's obvious to me, he's using you both. The truth is, there is no way to ever truly know the heart of a man. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. OP, regardless of what might be going on, the bottom line is you deserve better treatment than this. Deep down they are still hoping or wishing things had worked out differently, especially if there wasn't something major like abuse or cheating going on. I'll just find somebody else to have my son." Continue with Recommended Cookies. DO NOT GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS! But he doesnt know his boundaries. Ex is main concern for him and he allows it. They been seprated since 2001. Here are 10 things it means when a guy calls you Mama: 1. Remember that communication is essential to . Wanting to have a baby with some girl simply refers to being ready to take the . I have talked to other girls trying to find something new in hopes to get over her. For me, I don't think my boyfriend is "in love" with the mother of his children but he does have love for her and care for her for the simple fact she's the mother of his two kids. He wants to move on and wants me too but I can't I love him so deeply. 1. She is constantly sending texts to him about his baby and her personal business. So long story short they don't have to love the baby mama for you to hear them talking about her or for you to feel insecure. Ive already told his then gf that we were still having sex and she decided to stay with him, so o well. Just get out of this mess! If the ex is the mother or father of their child, they will need to be in contact. My grandma was the one who taught me. Like a term of endearment. But if you're God then I guess not. The origin web server does not have a valid SSL certificate. After that i change dramatically and fell even more in love with her but she left me for another guy and lied about it. To try to sum up what could be a culmination of mixed emotions may be impossible but you have to build that bridge to get across. Where's that ring? The term was first used in the early 1900s and its popular use is rooted in the work of theorists and child development researchers such as Sigmund Freud and . Nor does he spend any time with our daughter. He also wants me to remove the restraining order I have against him. Wear granny panties to bed. I do love him, I have met his family and they are really nice and caring towards me. There's plenty of men out there who are looking for a good woman. Sounds messed up to say but I wouldn't date someone with a child.. You sound like you have other problems that need your attention. Its been about 48 hours. I was with mine for over 5 years and I wound up going to prison for 11 months! He wanted me to go get checked out. Sometimes he would go out with them while I'm at home with our daughter and won't come back till 6 in the morning. (She was staying with her sister and her man) she tried to say he was one of their friends. Boyfriend talks about his baby mama EVERY DAY. SMH. Sometimes the baby mama is telling the truth and your bf just wants you to think she's crazy. I just wanted to move on. Why would he prioritize an ex' feelings over yours? It may also mean he likes you in a special way. You've shown her she can get under your skin. Whereas, if he shows multiple signs of attraction in his body language then it would be more likely that he actually is attracted to you. Ignore the fact that the wife back home can't do the same. Constantly brings up his BM on random conversations but doesn't get why I get upset. Sounds like to me she is playing a game. But i thought we where talking about when I was stuck in another country I just kinda brought it up cuz he blows me sometimes and I just wanna hurt him back. I was fine, but found out I was pregnant. It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions. 2. She uses my kid against me one minute and keeps him while shes ****ing with different guys but then tells me how.much she loves me . You ever heard the saying" I know what I bring to the table, therefore I don't mind eating alone". 1. Six freaking years. XXX PORN. You don't have to be on welfare to access birth control. A guy only has one life to give away not 9 what are we cats! It was a hot mess but I made sure he heard my take on all this because he barely spend s time with his kids and I dont nag him about it kids will learn one way or the other who their parent is down the line but Im just so fed up I dont know if all this has to do with the stupidness that happen because if it does its so ridicuous all because hes married. But that's after his mom died and even though I even wiped her when she peed herself fed her slept on the floor with him for the whole 30 days in the hospital I caught a attitude cuz he yelled at me and I said some shit to the extent in the argument that I'd go get some bomb ass dick. girls that go with married guys are looking for trouble, and then shocked when they find it! The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). But trying to hold on to something that hurt me was a huge mistake. The problem is i messed up the relationship and now shes afraid ima do it again. It's like they always have this secret love and "appreciation" for the fact that she birthed his kid(s). Even though he and I are divorced we have remained friends. About a month ago the new girlfriend sent a text that he still wants me. He told me that he will tell her about us but just not right now. Me and him still have sex and she's still with him. I have 2 kids with my BD and he has 3 kids with his BM before me. It depends some people always have that love and some people don't. When it comes to infidelity, IMO men cheat physically, women cheats emotionlly and physically. Its hard to say for sure without asking, but I know for a fact some guys will say it as a way to test the waters! This could indicate an expired SSL certificate or a certificate that does not include the requested domain name. Yet he got another girl pregnant and had two kids from her. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have started doing other things that a boyfriend would do at around the same time that he started to call you mama. There seems to be this attitude of "men have needswhat do you expectfor him to be a monk for a year." You should know damn well better than that. They think that nothing bad can happen to them and that they were in love with each other. So last night I had texted my boyfriend something really nice a memory and such. Take the initiative and tune out your mind or heart telling you that youd drop everything on a dime if she wanted you. It's already too messy and you're being treated like a dirty little secret. I am having the same issue with my bf, where he is hiding everything from me, saying he loves me but then turning around and telling her he misses her etc. But he makes it like it's nothing. Just like he posted a status saying I'm going to sleep and she'll comment yea you better go to bed.
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