This change wasnt well-received as it occurred without any advance notice. I give, is it supposed to be about mothers or not? Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. In my home ward, we once had a Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting the topic of which was the priesthood. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). And I did use some of the suggestions here. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? There are diabetic men, arent there? Ere the sun goes down. Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). In the mean time, please, PLEASE, dont go hunting the sisters. Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. Thank you. The greatest Mormon blog in the universe. This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. I have to say that I was almost offended that there would be an assumption that FD would be a piece of cake. I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. "We express our love to those in this congregation and our prayers for the victims and their families. Love your mother, my young sisters. But shes never experienced the horrors I have where the local ward nut case talks about how his wife isnt putting out thanks to menopause. Sisters would come up to me and express that MD was hard for them also for various reasonsone was abused by her mother while another friend had lost a mother she loved as a teenager so cried all day long. The first one we did was a modified version of "Teacher Do You Love Me". Preparation Print the song pages. It isnt uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. I wonder if a member of our bishopric reads this blog? It seems like every time theres a church scandaland especially one that concerns moneypeople start arguing that the scandal-ridden church (or even churches in general) should lose their tax exemptions. This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. Latter-day Saint Life. For myself and kindred too, But I realize others prefer plants. At least half the ward was so embarrassed for her at this point that they looked as if they wanted to crawl under the benches. We once had a bishop hand out frozen TV dinners! Ideals ALL! I wonder if this phenomenon is uniquely Mormon. Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? You can still give the women the day off. Every week they strive to prepare for that sacred ordinance with a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3Nephi 9:20). My bishop knows where its at, and we always get Dove bars, Milk for those of unrefined taste and Dark for the rest of us. Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng, Ray (#58) Steve Ps post is evidence that a talk from 2007 which has been essentially corrected is still being recycled today. Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. I love her and think she did a great job with the limited resources she had. JUST kidding. I like the post. A nod to moms but no pedestal worshiping. She was not a perfect mother, but I loved her. In simple terms his philosophy was that the church is not true because it is madeconsists of people who are imperfect and therefore not always true to all of the ideals taught. Mark, very good advice IMO. A break from the primary room!) What does that say about the role of motherhood? Tracy M posted an amazing video that deals with the general concept of this post in a really insightful way. Please Please Please! Saw the survey and didnt reply, but one suggestion-Please have enough for EVERY female in the ward or branch. If they give out a plant that I can put in the ground, Ill be sad to miss that, though. If you personally need one, thats fine, but not everyone needs a model for something that is experienced differently by everyone. I was supposed to talk two weeks ago on the purpose of the Sacrament but ended up in surgery instead, and upon returning to church last Sunday was asked to reschedule. Examples? . Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. Your arrangement sounds really cool. Talking to other grownups while nice doesnt belong in 3rd hour. She talked about how when she was single she was very shallow, only cared about clothes and makeup and boys, didnt prepare herself spiritually, didnt have much of a testimony, and then upon marrying found herself extremely immature and woefully unprepared to be a spiritual leader in her home. We know very little about HM and HF really. Very useful counsel, Mark. We can all sound harsh at times, but this seems to be a community of sorts and following through on the different dicussions helps put context to opinions expressed. In the spirit of the quib in #21 we should just cancel these commercial holidays. Crowd-sourcing request. Its never the men. I would say that my grandmother was like a second mother to us, but really she was like a first mother. Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ loves.feed my sheep, etc.https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. Gag. to hear my little kids sing and for my older kids to pass out a flower. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. I wont be attending this Sunday either, but as always will honor my own mother by being the best mother I can be to my hurting children. Christmas is not a universal holiday and thus we should not celebrate one day a year, We focus on Christ every day and every Sunday so there is no need to celebrate on Christmas. Until I see a longer lasting cease fire, Im staying home MD (with my mother and daughters). document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. Just pass out the chocolates and let all the women go to a park where buckets of KFC, potato salad and slaw are in abundance and/or veggie pizza and cheesecake. Gods commands I must obey, He emphasized there is no one perfect way to be a mother and that every situation is different. Thats what insulin is for. Which also makes me wonder about why we Americans dont recognize International Womens Day. Mother's Day: My talk by Kaimi Wenger May 5, 2009 23 Comments It's hard to strike the right balance, between affirming Moms who really need to be told that they made a good decision; and letting others (especially women) know that they're okay, too. Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! I would love tohear from you. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! But her mother held a yardstick, and if her daughter played the wrong key, her mother smacked her across the back ofher hands, thus providing sufficient negative reinforcement to motivate her to do it right the next time through. It was my missionary farewell, back when such things were acceptable. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. This past Mother's Day we arrived late to sacrament meeting due to a cobbling mishap in the morning. It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. This is something better done away with. Not a perfect example but I was striving for some other options besides stripling warriors moms. She discusses the divinity of motherhood and how every woman can become a mother in the world around her. Diabetic others, for example. Aleah Ingram May 3, 2021 Entertainment. first adult speaker: Motherhood is like a roller coaster: there are lots of ups and downs, and sometimes you just have to close your eyes and scream., second adult speaker, quoting a Native American proverb: The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears., benediction, by a former Bishop: Heavenly Father, we speak with thee every day, and we look forward to the day when we can renew our relationship with Heavenly Mother.. Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. Nice meeting. Daughters of God Why was she an ideal? It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. But I see where you are coming from. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. Those were the kinds of talks I gave, and thats what I would rather listen to. Find another way to show appreciation to Mothers! I already have felt many of the concerns expressed, and approach this assignment with fear and trembling. I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. The best Mothers Day talk Ive ever heard was an illustration of this principle. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. So I will be going to church on Sunday, even though I never go to church, so I can remember my mother, who was never a Mormon. Their talks often included poems about the immeasurable amount of crap mothers had to deal with. Idealsno, no maam not for me. Im the counselor in charge of calling speakers for Mothers Day. Really? I am not sure what other words I can use to convey my meaning when I rely so heavily on tone. For example, look at how Mothers Day and Mothering Day each have a religious as well as a secular component to them, and have even merged: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday. Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. My kids are way too distracting. I wanted to know more, so here are his thoughts. What does this mean about women? Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! It has been another hellish week, reminding me of all my faults and short-comings as a mother, all that went wrong for me as a daughter, and it has all brought me a liitle closer to God, who is repeatedly teaching me that one-size-does-not-fit-all, or most or even many. It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. I dont remember all 18 things, but two of them stuck with me, even 15 years later. The Best LDS Talks on Motherhood | LDS Daily The woman described her family as she was growing up. Evry cry of pity heeding, Reading over those messages, it is hard to come up with any form of consensus other than, everyone has a different opinion. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). I exchanged the word "guidance " for the word " mothers " in this verse to help it go with the Mother's Day theme. Mtg. Talk topics could be: - examples in the scriptures (Eve, Ruth, Naomi, Esther, Sarah, Mary, Sariah, etc), - early Saints (Lucy Mack, Emma, Eliza R Snow, Aurelia Rogers, etc), - influence of (teachers, nurses, aunts, grandmas, etc). Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . You can still give the women the day off. It is based only partially on a professional clergy with access to time-proven messages and more likely on fundamental theological differences. For the past two years, I have been passed over because other women tell the youth passing out the gift, that they need to take one for so-and-so, shes ill today,without looking for women in the room that havent received one yet. 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Ancient Romans and Greeks would celebrate Cybele / Rhea, the mother of the Gods with festivals in the spring time. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. The best MD talk I ever heard was given by my neighbor. I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. . Seriously, no one is going to be pleased. Oh and starting with Anthropologist Hrdys observations on what a plane full of chimps rather than humans would look like. How about we don't celebrate either at church, but celebrate it in our homes with our mothers and fathers? The other auxiliaries are free to do something, its just the bishopric that doesnt. Is it callender time, number of posts, how irritated the host is with the comments! It was an emotional rollercoaster of raised hopes and disappointments. Sacrament Meeting - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints But as for now no praise deserved but the praze to the heavenly Father. Classic! So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. kc I love me some Pres. But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. 2. Actually, Ive never heard anything about Heavenly Mother beyond, Isnt it so wonderful that we believe in a Heavenly Mother?!. I went to Sac. Still, I think the flak about Sister Becks talk is nonsense. This is the same reason we do not have missionary farewells any longer. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? Steve P. wont be the only one this Mothers Day asked to speak on that controversial talk, its still in heavy circulation in wards. I cant quite relate that to Motherhood but maybe he will. In return, the Lord renews the promised remission of sin and enables Church members to always have his Spirit to be with them (Doctrine and Covenants 20:77). 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